I have considered your situation at length and I find I have several unanswered questions that make it challenging to give you a direct response. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and posing this question. Would love to discuss this aspect of my sexuality. I heard many therapists tell me that a label is not important but it is to me as to how I see myself. It is important that I have some clarity as to which I am. I need to find a way to decipher between the two.

Coming to this conclusion has brought a lot of questions as to am I really gay or am I just bisexual. I have been married for 36 years and I am recently out to my wife. I believe with some uncertainty that I am a 60 year old gay man.