“Kinky sex can be the best way to ‘self-care’ and there’s a toy out there everyone’s unique preferences,” N’diaye says. She also organizes sponsored community events that create a safe space to discuss sexual experiences and trauma. N’diaye is the host of a podcast, Pro Hoe, where she speaks with creative types about self-pleasure Black sexual wellness and sexual identities. She always tells them that before you buy a sex toy, you should first try to “understand what the high-level use case is that you’re looking to buy a product for.” In other words, spend some time thinking about how you’ll realistically be incorporating it into your life. “The vast majority of people who come to us are looking to buy a vibrator for the first time,” she says. Rodriguez is the founder of the online sex shop Unbound. To find them, we combed through brutally honest Amazon reviews and sought the guidance of two experts: Polly Rodriguez and Penda N’diaye.

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